Yesterday was the official one month mark of me being a mother of three. How cliche it sounds to say “where’d the time go”, but really… I have no clue. The last four weeks have been a brilliant and wonderful and tiring and cumbersome mixture of sleep deprivation and basking in the admiration of creating life. There’s really no way to adequately prepare for any stage of parenthood, I’ve learned. Depending on the friend that was offering advice juggling three kids is either MUCH more difficult than having two, or not much different at all. Everyone has their own opinions about this, and I think a lot of the experience is dependent on the age gap between children as well.
There is a gap of four years between my oldest daughter and middle child, then only 23 months between the middle child and my newborn. There is definitely a HUGE difference between having a toddler and a newborn, than having a preschooler and a newborn. While parents have their own styles, preferences, and tendencies… I’ve learned a few things that you can DEFINITELY do along the way if your intent is to loose your mind complete while juggling three kids…
Keep A Spotless Home
Forget about it. It just isn’t going to happen, unless you’re lucky enough to afford some awesome cleaning service (we aren’t, unfortunately). While I’m sure it won’t be this way forever, and things will improve as the girls age, there just isn’t enough time in the day to keep things spotless when you’re outnumbered. It’s also ridiculous how much laundry three little people can accumulate in a day! Our daily goal is to keep things sanitary and fairly presentable these days.
Correct You Partners Parenting Hang-Ups
Ha! Who has time to correct and critique while juggling three kids? Sure, with two kids I had time to hover over my husband making not so subtle suggestions on how he could do things just like me (because of course,, that was the only correct way). Juggling three kids though…. sheesh! I’m happy to hand him a kid as soon as he walks in the door and retreat to the restroom for a (usually much needed) shower.
Don’t Accept Help
This is the quickest way to completely lose your mind while juggling three kids! When your family or friends ask for help… TAKE IT! Pride goes out the window when you’re outnumbered by children. Our church family was kind enough to provide us with hot dinners for about a week or so after the new baby arrived. This was AMAZING and we soo appreciated. We also were blessed to have friends and family offer to take the oldest so that we could have a break of sorts and relax with baby.
Determine To Raise The “Perfect” Children
Face it… you’re going to make mistakes. Some you’ll have to apologize for. Some will take a while to fix. All of them will be learning experiences. That’s life. We all fall short at times, and none of us will ever be perfect. Including the little angels you are raising. Do your best and you’ll be find. There’s no such thing as too much love and if they know you love them and care they’ll be just fine!
Don’t Relax and Rest… Ever
If you want to completely lose your mind, don’t ever take a moment to relax and rest and enjoy your family. This will do the job the quickest! Really, there is no point of God gifting you this beautiful family if you aren’t ever going to relax and appreciate them! You have to CONSCIOUSLY take the time out to do so, or you won’t. That’s just a fact!
There you have it. Five quick and easy ways to completely loose your mind while juggling three kids. Have any that you’d like to add to the mix? Share in the comments below!