It happens to the best of us, our mind gets full of clutter from over scheduling or focusing on the wrong information and we look in the rear view mirror to see we are not the happy parent that we had hoped to be. Do not fret, you can become a happier parent, it’s just a matter of giving up a little something to gain something more valuable:
5 Things to Let Go to Become a Happier Parent
Let Go of Control
Learn to be okay with not having complete control of everything around you. The kids will not always complete tasks in the way you want them to, but if they get done? Hallelujah! Friends and family won’t always do what you want them to do, in the way you wished them to do it, it is okay! When you learn to let go of control a little feeling of peace starts to creep upon you and you feel just a little happier.
remember that personal bubble we all had growing up, that space that no one could or should ever enter into? Give it up. No more will you have personal space, if you are going to the bathroom, the kids will have 50 questions and walk right in on you. The existence of personal space disappears once you become a parent; learn to be happy with that fact. Learning to accept that personal space no longer exists alleviates frustration quickly.
Give up All You Know
Growing up you probably had thought extensively about how you would parent your kids, you had rules and guidelines in mindset forth by the parents who raised you. Now that you have your own kids, times have changed and you are not so sure your presumed ways will work, that’s okay. Learn to think outside of the box and give up all you know about parenting, this will free up a lot of disappointment.
Stop Keeping Score
Parenthood is not a competition, it doesn’t matter how much you did versus how much your partner did as each day passes. Let go of having to keep score of who is doing more as a parent, because ultimately it all evens out and so as long as you love the life you have, who cares who is doing more. Learn to do what you feel capable of handling and your partner will do the same, this helps you to be a happy parent naturally.
Ask Why, Often
instead of being the dictator type of parent, start asking why to your kids when they aren’t willing to do something for you. While you still need to teach those boundaries and consequences, learn to listen to the why behind their thoughts as this will help ease the parental burden of having to argue about getting a kid to complete a task. Hearing why your kid feels a certain way about something encourages you to adjust things to alleviate the arguments.
Once you have developed the ability to release control, accept personal space doesn’t exist, let go of parental stereotypes, stop tallying who did more and start listening to what your kids have to say; you will soon feel relaxed to let that happiness flow in. You know what they say, a happy parent makes a happy kid, and so what are you waiting for? Go on. Let go of these five things today and watch as your family grows substantially happier.